Recreating Your Relationship With Death
Hello & Welcome
At some point, death will become a part of your life.
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Whether through a diagnosis, caring for someone who is dying, grieving someone who has died, or you're reminded that one day you're going to.
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And yet even though it is the one transition we are all going to experience, it tends to be the one we are the least prepared for.
I'm here to help you find
RELIEF. RESILIENCE. RENEWAL.
Comfort in the discomfort of navigating your mortality &
the possibilities in preparing for death ~ especially before you have to.
How you ask?
By meeting you exactly where you are.
And by reminding you of the natural tools you already have for navigating dying & living while helping you prepare for death mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually and practically.
We spend so much of life pretending death is something to prepare for "later"... until there isn't one.
What if facing your death is the greatest act of care?
For yourself, your loved ones and the world?
I'm here to help people who are ready to explore mortality as a landscape to navigate, rather than a sudden cliff to fall from.
Think of my offerings as unique invitations for navigating the map for making mortality your mentor.
I'm here to help death pull focus on what really matters to you,
so you can live and die in alignment with it.
We can find ways to soften fear, feel empowered,
become more present and feel less concerned about the
life you have left & how you leave it.
I believe you can ease your inevitable passing for yourself and your loved ones by living more fully with death
...while you're here.
Wherever you are with death...
You don't need to have it all figured out.
(spoiler alert ~ no one does & that's where I can help)
MY APPROACH
Let Mortality Be Your Mentor
Whatever external or internal circumstances brought you here...
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Death is present in your life in some way.
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Maybe it's staring right at you through a diagnosis, giving you some serious side-eye through your grief, or it really hit home on that latest episode of your favourite TV show that one day you will die.
What happens when you stop looking away?
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Whatever is showing up for you ~ fear, avoidance, denial...
It's what we've been taught is 'normal' for dealing with death.
But what if instead of leaning away, we lean in instead?
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​The next logical step most people take is to treat death 'practically'.
We prepare by doing the paperwork, writing out our passwords and parting with some of our belongings.
Don't misunderstand me, we will do that together too.
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But I believe we can find greater ease in life & at end-of-life not by only planning for it with well-organised folders & a step-by-step checklist...
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But by recreating life around it.
By seeing, being with & grieving it.
By being moved & shaped by it.
Even being guided & inspired by it.
Because this isn't just about paperwork, policies or passwords...
​This is about agency, intentionality & being human.
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When we approach death as a part of life to create a relationship with, we honour it for the mental, emotional, physical, spiritual and natural experience that it is ~ all while preparing practically for it.
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This approach allows our death to become the invitation for care that it can be ~ for ourselves, our loved ones and for the world we are part of.
This is about finding an approach that can transform death from a chaotic mystery into a transition that honours your life, love & legacy.​​​​​​​​​
I've spent almost two decades developing this approach to
end-of-life & recreating a life guided by it.
It is directly inspired by those that I've witnessed & walked alongside.
Welcome to...
The Death
Compass
What if life is the perfect training ground for death
and death can actually help us learn how to live?​​​​​​​​​
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Change is a natural part of life ~ and so is death.
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Change in all its forms throughout life forces us to face the unknown.
To learn how to adapt, to grieve and to grow ~ over & over again.
Death is the ultimate unknown but also the ultimate invitation.
To begin living a life that only grief can grow and
one that helps us befriend, design & live with our death
rather than only pretending, denying or fearing it.
All the 'deaths' and endings we experience along the way in life...
~ jobs, relationships, identities, people, communities, pets, homes ~
are the perfect training ground to learn how to live with loss.
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But what if they become invitations to live with our own loss too?
To consider our death as a guide for how we live what's left.
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Death isn't just a surface level experience. It's a deeply human one.
Mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually and materially.
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One of the superpowers of being human is that we have the capacity to feel many different things... all at once & moment to moment.
Fearful, excited, grateful, resentful, inspired, worried, prepared, confused, angry, relaxed, insecure, sad, resigned... the list goes on.
Death has a unique ability to bring it all to the surface.
And we have natural tools for navigating this experience.
My invitations are designed to explore how you can uniquely navigate through, and to, what feels better to you... no matter the circumstances.
Yes ~ even death.
My unique compass for navigating your relationship with death is built on the natural tools that remain, and can bring ease, at end-of-life.
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By using them as our foundational directions now...
We can learn to live like we're dying. Because we are.
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These natural tools of honest conversation, exploring recreation, practicing mindfulness and cultivating care while introducing a healthy dose of nervous-system friendly practices, perspectives, invitations & rituals create the foundation of living and dying well .
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Let my framework help you recreate your life and your death
by rebuilding everything around it.
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Conversation
As a certified doula & coach, I'm here to remind you of the natural human practice for well-being that is intentional conversation ~ with yourself, with me and trusted people in your circle of care.
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When we are dying... sometimes it is too late for saying what needs to be said. We focus on the practices of speaking as well as silence.
Both become key at end-of-life.​
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Meditation
As a certified mindfulness teacher, I'm here to help you discover the life & death changing practice of meditation ~ let me help you myth-bust this practice to support your transition.
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When we are dying... our internal world comes more directly into focus. We will work together on how to cultivate your relationship with your brain, body, breath and beyond as you live and die.
Recreation
As a certified nature-based therapy provider, recreation facilitator & expedition leader ~ I'm here to help you remember our fundamental need for fun & exploration through life & at end-of-life.
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When we are dying... our options for fun, joy and recreation become smaller and shift importance. We will discover finding ways to grieve what is no longer available while welcoming what still is.​​​​​​
Donation
As a long term volunteer, family caregiver and
co-founder of a not-for-profit ~ I'm here to help you rediscover the power of purpose around what we care about and give to, in life & at death.
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When we are dying... what we care about most is pulled sharply into focus, as is the legacy we will leave behind. We will learn that legacy and what we are remembered for is both big and small.
The Death Compass
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