Natural Tools For Navigating Transitions

Hello & Welcome

Whether you are dying, supporting someone who is, grieving someone who has, or you're done pretending you're not going to...

Let me help you find

RELIEF. RESILIENCE. RENEWAL.

Comfort in the discomfort of endings, beginnings & in-betweens

How you ask?

By meeting you exactly where you are
with natural tools for navigating transition

Whatever you are experiencing.

You don't need to have it all figured out.
(spoiler alert ~ no one does)

That's where I can help.

Your Guide On The Side

My name is

& I'm so glad you're here

Professionally?

I'm a trauma-informed transition coach bringing together my certifications as a death doula, meditation teacher and recreational therapy provider.

I'm not going to help you "get over" your grief

~ whether it's your death or the death of someone else.

I am here to help you honour it ~ learning to live & die with it.

My job is to help you gently let death become your guide.

To allow loss to become a part of who you are.

My role is to offer invitations that allow you to see death differently.

To allow it to recreate your life into one that only grief can grow.

Death changes everything ~ what happens when we let it?

This is not about turning grieving into productivity.

It is about learning to befriend, design & live with your death.

Because once you've integrated death, you can get on with living

~ no matter how long you have left.

Personally?

Death has shaped and reshaped my life... I've learned to let it.

I've spent over three decades navigating death and transitions of all

different kinds ~ by change and choice, by myself and alongside others.

My professional approach is deeply connected with my personal experience.

Because of my life lived & unique combination of certifications ~ I bring my own blend of support, understanding and a solid sense of respectful humour to anyone navigating the weird, wild, wonder-filled landscape of life and death.

You might be thinking...

"How is she just talking about death so easily, I can't even look at it"

I've been there.

I may be a professional death worker now...

But I'm also a grieving person too.

I've grieved to the point of having night terrors & being unable to work.

I've lost people I couldn't imagine living without & sometimes almost didn't.

I've lost loved ones suddenly ~ to suicide, accidents & hidden health issues.

I've lost loved ones slowly ~ to disease, dementia & natural deterioration.

I've almost lost loved ones ~ through diagnosis & near-death experience.

I've been a primary & palliative caregiver while trying to live my own life.

I've been present for the last breath of others & faced my own mortality too.

I'm not going to promise it gets easier, but it can become different.

Every time I've experienced death ~ I've seen it as an invitation to recreate my life.

That's how, through death, this business was born.

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I've experienced a lot & so have you.

You can't shock, scare or surprise me.
But you can find safety with me. Here's how...

MY APPROACH

Let Mortality Be Your Mentor

Whatever external or internal circumstances brought you here...

Death is present in your life.

Maybe it's staring right at you through a terminal diagnosis or

perhaps it's giving you some serious side-eye through your grief.

What happens when you stop looking away?

I believe we can find greater ease at end-of-life not by just planning for it with well-organised folders & a step-by-step checklist...

But by recreating life around it.

By seeing, grieving & accepting it.

By being moved & shaped by it.

Even being guided & inspired by it.

Because this isn't just about paperwork, policies or passwords...

This is about agency & intentionality.

This is about finding an approach that turns death from a chaotic mystery into a transition that honours your life, love & legacy.

I've spent almost two decades developing this approach to
end-of-life & recreating a life guided by it.

It is directly inspired by those that I've witnessed & walked alongside.

Welcome to...

The Death
Compass

What if life is the perfect training ground for death

and death can actually help us learn how to live?

Change is a natural part of life ~ and so is death.

Change in all its forms throughout life forces us to face the unknown.

To learn how to adapt, to grieve and to grow ~ over & over again.
Death is the ultimate unknown but also the ultimate invitation.

To begin living a life that only grief can grow and

one that helps us befriend, design & live with our death

rather than pretending, denying or fearing it.

All the 'deaths' and endings we experience along the way in life...

~ jobs, relationships, identities, people, communities, pets, homes ~

are the perfect training ground to learn how to live with loss.

But what if they become invitations to live with our own loss too?

To consider our death as a guide for how we live what's left.

Life isn't just a surface level experience. It's a deeply human one.

It is a psychological, physical, emotional, material & spiritual one.

One of the superpowers of being human (that death powerfully pulls focus on) is that we have the capacity to feel many different things...
all at once & moment to moment
Fearful, excited, grateful, resentful, inspired, worried, prepared, confused, angry, relaxed, insecure, sad, resigned... the list goes on.

And we have natural tools for navigating it all.

We just aren't taught to see them through the lens of death.

I can help you navigate through, and to, what feels better to you...
No matter the circumstances.
Yes ~ even death.

My unique compass for navigating transition combines natural tools of
honest conversation, exploring recreation, practicing mindfulness and cultivating care while introducing a healthy dose of nervous-system friendly practices, perspectives, invitations & rituals...

These four natural tools are what remain at end-of-life when everything else falls away ~ we can use them to create the foundation of not only dying well but living fully too.

Let my framework help you recreate your life and your death
by rebuilding everything around it.

Conversation

As a certified doula & coach, I'm here to remind you of the natural human practice for well-being that is intentional conversation ~ with yourself, with me and trusted people in your circle of care.

Meditation

As a certified mindfulness teacher, I'm here to help you discover the life & death changing practice of meditation ~ let me help you myth-bust this practice to support your transition.

Recreation

As a certified water therapy provider, recreation facilitator & international expedition leader ~ I'm here to help you remember our fundamental need for fun & exploration through life & at end-of-life.

Donation

As a long term volunteer, family caregiver and

co-founder of a not-for-profit ~ I'm here to help you rediscover the power of purpose around what we care about and give to, in life & at death.

The Death Compass

Directions

MY OFFERINGS

Let's work & play together

Each of our life experiences are unique.

That means so are the ways we navigate death.

I believe in offering diverse support so that you can

choose your own adventure...

THE DEATH COMPASS

Letting Mortality Be Your Mentor

This is my signature program designed to help you recreate your life around death.

12 weeks or 12 months.

This is a 1:1 private mentorship.

No group. No mass container. Just us.

Whether you are dying, supporting someone who is, grieving someone who has

or you're done pretending you're not going too...

Let's Begin

1:1 COACHING & CONVERSATION

In-person or online

Need some time to sift through the muck with someone neutral & non-judgemental?

This can be a great place to start. Whether a one-time session or whenever you need them, we can meet from the comfort of your home or mine.

We can also meet outdoors while we walk, paddle, snowshoe... it doesn't get more personalised than meeting one-to-one.

I also offer uniquely recorded life reviews & living legacy interviews with you or your loved ones called "While We're Here..."

Let's Talk

SELF-PACED PACKAGES & PROGRAMS

Online

If you prefer to take your time, dip in-and-out, dive in or it just feels too scary to say anything out loud yet... this is just as powerful a place to start.

Access my programs, practices & products to support your self-paced navigation of whatever

you may be experiencing right now.

Available online whenever you are.

Your pace.

Your presence.

Your possibilities.

Let's Start

RECREATION & TRAVEL

In-person

Want to rediscover fun & recreation in grief?

Looking to stay active even at end-of-life?

Looking to find joy when it feels there is none?

Have a bucket list trip but no one to go with? Grieving & need to get away with support?

Have a terminal illness & want to say goodbye to people or places but need a companion?

Have a dream you want to make happen?

I'm here.

Let's Explore

SOLO & GROUP RETREATS

In-person or online

I offer solo, couple and group retreats both in-person & online (in real-time or recorded too).

Pretty neat huh?

I can deliver half day, full day and multi-day experiences tailored to your specific interests, needs & desires.

I can also deliver presentations and workshops to your unique audience about any relevant topics ~ whether charity, community or corporate.

Let's get creative together.

Let's Create

Still not sure I'm for you?
Totally fair! Start here...

Sometimes we just need somewhere to start that's

free & easy

When circumstances are changing quickly, everything is a bit much or you've barely got one nostril above the tide ~ it can be hard to take that first step toward doing something (or anything) about it.

Below you'll find offerings designed to make that initial 'something' a bit easier. These invitations to interact with me will not only help you to get to know me better but they are also a living example of The Death Compass in practice.

I've recreated my life around my death ~ living the legacy of what I want to leave.

Whether it's conversation, meditation, recreation or donation...

there's something here for you to try.